Cultivate experiences over things this holiday season

Cultivate experiences over things this holiday season

Ok. Thanksgiving is over, so now it's the mad dash to get everything ready for Christmas.  Sadly, for many, a good bit of the hurry and fluster is going to revolve around presents.  Research shows that consumer spending constitutes nearly 70% of the U.S. economy (World Bank, 2018).  It's hard to swim upstream and there are millions spent on advertising to ensure that we all buy into this idea that Christmas is all about presents.  I fell into the trap too.  A few years ago, I did what I did every year around this time and sat down with my kids and asked what they wanted for Christmas.  When I got underwhelming responses I asked the follow-up question, “What has been the best thing you have gotten for Christmas ever?” They had to think a good long while to even come up with anything. What they did remember was the experiences that had gone along with the gifts. They remembered getting bath bombs in their stocking that made bubbles and turned the bath water a pretty color. They regaled me with tales of the time their Grandma had given them these blow-up balls that a whole person could fit inside of. They bounced on the trampoline for hours wearing these things and crashing into each other laughing and laughing.  They had other fun stories too.  What became readily apparent was that it is not the thing or the price of it, but rather the experiences that made the impression. So, I decided from then on that I’d focus on cultivating those experiences and creating opportunities for our family to connect. My son got rock climbing lessons and we went chasing rock walls where he could happily boulder for hours. The kids got scuba certified and we went diving. I picked up kites at Costco for $10 and wrapped them with a certificate good for one outing to the beach where it is ALWAYS windy so we could fly them. When we started focusing Christmas on time together and making memories, our lives changed drastically for the better. So in this season of consumerism when the world is telling you to buy, buy, buy - I’m telling you to spend time. It's not just me though, research shows that apparently, my own little in-house experiment falls right in line with what all the scientific people proved that people derive more happiness from experiential purchases (concerts, vacations) than material purchases (clothing, gadgets; see Gilovich & Kumar, 2015, and Gilovich and Gallo, 2020.) When you think about it, it makes perfect sense. Our time and our health are things that are irreplaceable and can’t be bought. Luckily nature is the gateway to sooo much goodness and much of it is free. A bigger bonus is that spending time in it actually helps make us healthier which then allows us to have even more experiences. It's a win-win. Over the next few weeks, I’m going to highlight some experiences you can orchestrate to spend time with people that will fill your cup.  A few of them might just be able to be wrapped and slipped under the tree.  

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